Sunday, November 26, 2017

Everyone I've ever met knows exactly what they're doing

Note: I wrote this two years ago, in 2015 and for some reason did not publish. Doing so now, for all those waiting with bated breath. :)

In my life, I've met people remarkable to me because they were fully certain in their opinions and beliefs.

My high school best friend, who was certain that her former home in Dunmore, Pennsylvania was the best place on earth. And never stopped talking about it.

A college roommate, who was certain that The Electric Light Orchestra, some ice cream restaurant where she worked, her high school in Akron, were the best ever, period. And never stopped talking about them.

A community of opinionated people who thought the Kon Tiki restaurant in Columbus was the absolute best the city had to offer. And I never stopped hearing about it. (Took my parents. It was un-best.)

In their own minds, they were right, I suppose. I didn't know enough to consider that they wanted attention. But I was awed by certainty. I felt my own experiences paled because I had not lived their best ones. I was rarely, if ever, certain of anything because the only constant in my life was change. A new home and new acquaintances practically every year.

Elyria Catholic High School.
Being in my mother's house now over the holidays, walking in the town where I finished grade school and high school, made me remember all this. What I did not fully realize when I was younger was that my own experiences were rich, full and very much broader than those of the peers of my late teen and young adult life. Then I just wanted, as in every new town and school, to fit in.

Sometimes I've wished my father hadn't chosen this town to settle in after our Army wanderings were over. We had seen so much, and this little autoworkers' town was, and is, so small, and peopled with so many souls who barely venture to Cleveland, much less the world beyond.

Then again, perhaps it is rootedness that gives certainty. We could have landed in Chicago, or Dallas, or San Francisco and still I would likely have encountered people who had been there all their lives, certain it was the best place, ever, to be.

The only thing I am certain of is the gratitude I feel for being rooted in one of the nicest families on earth.

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About the photo: In my senior year, my class streamed out of the doors in the distance for an informal class photo. There were no thick trees there then. I had a locker near one of those doors.

Saturday, November 25, 2017

End of the month, you know?

I had Thanksgiving off. It was lovely, drinks and dinner friends and with family.

Worked the next day, very slow. After work, realized I needed something, fruit mostly, for breakfast. So stopped at the Shop & Save after work. Picked up raspberries, strawberries, a few oranges and some cherry juice. Also picked the shortest cashier line.

Kind of a mistake.

Maybe.

The lady ahead of me was clearly in financial stress. She had on a big jacket with lots of pockets. A green card on the counter by the register. And four stacks of quarters on that same counter. Fussing and wondering.

The cashier was so nice. The lady needed only a dollar and some change to pay her tab and thought she had dropped some under the candy and magazine rack. I looked, the cashier looked and the guy behind me looked. No change.

I'm looking to get in and out on a Friday night. Can I please go home, have dinner and read?

So.

"Can I help? What do you need?" Comes the response: "One dollar and 34 cents."

I have exactly two one dollar bills in my wallet and pass them on. The lady in front thanks me and promises to pay it forward.

Good. Can we move on?

Except no. We can't. She had another item that needed to be scanned separately and by then she had lost her food stamps card in her voluminous pockets, the floor, her purse or goodness knows where.

Her comment was "End of the month, you know?"

I gathered up my few packages and the nice guy behind me let me out. Couldn't wait anymore. By the time I checked out, he was still waiting.

Lady in distress was still fumbling and trying to find what she needed.

And the cashier was being so very kind.

And I'm so glad, because you never know when circumstance might change, that I am not poor.

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Looking back, I think what a luxury it is to want to go home and read. After work. At a job. That pays. 

Saturday, November 18, 2017

The Lottery (with no apologies to Shirley Jackson)

 Each week, I fritter a few dollars away on the lottery. I'll never win. But here's the thing. I already have. We none of us get to pick our parents, but wow, in the lottery of birth, I hit the jackpot. Born to  parents who read to me. That shaped my life. Thinking back, here are some of the authors and illustrators who rocked my world.

C.S Lewis and Pauline Baynes (The Chronicles of Narnia)
Dr. Seuss (everything, but especially the Northgoing Zaks with Stars upon Thars)
James Thurber (he wrote and drew hilariously)
Chas Addams (macabre made wonderful)
Lewis Carroll and Arthur Tenniel (Alice in Wonderland. I will go down the rabbit hole with you any time)
Charles Schulz (he drew Good ol' Charlie Brown and wrote his story, too. Bonus: Vince Guaraldi's music)
Frank Tashlin ("The Bear That Wasn't" https://vimeo.com/138897532Th
A.A. Milne and E.H. Shepard (Winnie the Pooh & The Wind in the Willows)
Ray Bradbury & Joe Mugnani (The October Country)
Chuck Jones (Looney Tunes)
E.B. White  & Garth Williams (Charlotte's Web)
plus Babar, Curious George, Calvin & Hobbes, Matt Groenig's "Life in Hell" series and "Nade" a graphic novel heroine from my childhood in France.
And former colleague Stacy Innerst, a wonderful illustrator who reminded me that I won the reading parents lottery. Here is one of his works.
https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/ruth-bader-ginsburg-jonah-winter/1125674822#/

Lucky lucky lucky. Thanks Mom & Dad

Saturday, November 4, 2017

Friends and Neighbors

A bit of planning and a bit of serendipity this weekend.

Visited former Post-Gazette colleagues whom I've kept in touch with via Facebook. We chatted for more than an hour, catching up and sharing news.  Margi and Rick. Thank you for letting me borrow the drill and for the coffee and conversation.

Later in the day, during my walk through the neighborhood and off my usual course because of road construction, I came upon another set of colleagues – one current and one former. Anita and Bob, outside and enjoying the late fall sun. We had such a nice chat; Anita brought down a couple of glasses of red wine while Bob tended to the weeding.

There is something special about community. Kind of like family ... you are born to it, but you can find it and make it as well.